Thursday, May 19, 2011

Being monogamous is an everyday choice

Once you decide that you want to be monogamous, that decision is not one that once taken is finished. Most decisions in life you need to live with your decision. So when you decide to be monogamous, also daily you need to decide why is it that you want to be monogamous. The decision is personal but for me these are some of the reasons why monogamy is my choice:

  • A relationships core root is trust, and trust once broken is never regained. A single indiscretion shows a pattern. A pattern of someone who cannot think further than than the now and into what possible repercussions there are. I speak from the side of the fence that has never had a indiscretion so perhaps others would disagree with this perception. I suppose to it depends on the basis of the relationship. Theoretically I am sure there are relationships that define trust slightly differently, but my core is about monogamy in the standard sense. 
  • You need to remind yourself that there is a reason you wanted to be monogamous. The person you are committed to, and why you are committed to them. Normally this is the key. There is a reason why you wanted to be monogamous and spend time with the partner of choice. So remember that the partner is the reason, and why this partner.
  • Sometimes there are external factors, like children. While this should not be a primary driver it is a consideration.
  • While life is happening count your blessings. Look at what is good in the relationship every day and appreciate you partner, and what you partner brings to your life.

This is all great, what makes it difficult is that as we get older, what defines a man is virility, and monogamy can be a challenge to this. You partner may not require you to be as viral as before, through their own needs, so you need to look at ways of redefining how they see you, and what they enjoy in you besides your virility.

Either way try and reflect on it daily.

Saturday, January 22, 2011

Sexy Dice

Category: Tumeric
Situation: Alone with your partner

You can play this any way you like, but use a dice as this is easy. 

Play the game we you have some privacy, and also when you have a similar number of clothing items on.

Using your partner decide what each number of the dice will mean, here is a suggestion:
  1. Means you get to kiss any area of your partners body
  2. Means you get to touch (gently) any part of your partners body
  3. Means you get to gently blow (as in puff or fan) any area of your partners body
  4. Means you get to lick any part of your partners body
  5. Means you can whisper a wish to any part of your partners body
  6. Means your partner has to remove an item of clothing, of their choice, if naked and the game has not stopped then they have to roll the dice and you get to do whatever action to them or they pay a forfeit


You can also change the game slightly to have the dice determine the part of the body to play with, so then you will need two dice, different colours where one colour is the action and the other the part of the body, in this case you can have parts of the body as below:
  1. Face and neck
  2. Arms and hands
  3. Stomach and back
  4. Legs and feet
  5. Torso or breast
  6. Pubic area or bottom

If the person roles a 6 on the dice then they still remove a piece of clothing.

About this Blog

This blog is here to help monogamous couples in their quest to spice up their relationship. Each post is a suggestion of something to do that will help you add more fun into a relationship you are dedicated to.

So each post will have a Category. This will be the type of spice here are some examples:

  • Saffron- is perfect for spending time getting to know each other better on an emotional level, so conversation is king.
  • Nutmeg - something that is a little more spice conversation of the more sexual type
  • Tumeric - getting the steam going, and that may lead to...
  • Chilli - A post that goes further than nudity
  • Wasabi - A quick hot idea
So each post will list the type, which will give and idea of what to expect the post to be about.

I hope that each post will give people ideas on getting a little more out of their committed relationship.