Being monogamous is an everyday choice

Once you decide that you want to be monogamous, that decision is not one that once taken is finished. Most decisions in life you need to live with your decision. So when you decide to be monogamous, also daily you need to decide why is it that you want to be monogamous. The decision is personal but for me these are some of the reasons why monogamy is my choice:

• A relationships core root is trust, and trust once broken is never regained. A single indiscretion shows a pattern. A pattern of someone who cannot think further than than the now and into what possible repercussions there are. I speak from the side of the fence that has never had a indiscretion so perhaps others would disagree with this perception. I suppose to it depends on the basis of the relationship. Theoretically I am sure there are relationships that define trust slightly differently, but my core is about monogamy in the standard sense. 
• You need to remind yourself that there is a reason you wanted to be monogamous. The person you are committed to, and why you are committed to them. Normally this is the key. There is a reason why you wanted to be monogamous and spend time with the partner of choice. So remember that the partner is the reason, and why this partner.
• Sometimes there are external factors, like children. While this should not be a primary driver it is a consideration.
• While life is happening count your blessings. Look at what is good in the relationship every day and appreciate you partner, and what you partner brings to your life.

This is all great, what makes it difficult is that as we get older, what defines a man is virility, and monogamy can be a challenge to this. You partner may not require you to be as viral as before, through their own needs, so you need to look at ways of redefining how they see you, and what they enjoy in you besides your virility.

Either way try and reflect on it daily.